Domestic Violence Resources

Violence at home touches everyone within the home, regardless of age. The Naperville Police Department is committed to creating and fostering a departmental and community-wide understanding of the issues and dynamics surrounding domestic violence. These webpages provide victims of domestic violence information about resources available to them to help stop the cycle of abuse.

Domestic violence is not always physical, but it is always about power and control.

Domestic Violence is ...

  • Physical abuse (pushing, hitting, forced sex, not allowing you to leave)
  • Harassment (creating a disturbance at your job, repeatedly telephoning, following or watching you, preventing you from seeing your child, threatening to hurt you)
  • Making a child or other person watch abuse
  • Forcing you to do something you don’t want to do
  • Denying a disabled person access to needed care

Warning Signs

Does your partner ...

  • Keep track of your schedule and whereabouts?
  • Control you by being very bossy or demanding?
  • Blame others, especially you, for his/her mistakes?
  • Accuse you of flirting or cheating?
  • Constantly criticize you?
  • Control all the money?
  • Humiliate you in front of others (including making “jokes” at your expense)?
  • Threaten to hurt you, your children, or your pets?
  • Use violence or intimidation to stop you from spending time with friends and family?
  • Use violence or intimidation to stop you from working or going to school?
  • Force you to have sex, or demand sexual acts that make you uncomfortable?
  • Push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?

Domestic Violence Myths

Myth: Children do not suffer long-term effects from family violence.
FACT: Children of abusive parents often are abused physically or sexually. In many cases, they continue the cycle of violence by abusing their own children. Statistics show that children who witness violence are more likely to commit acts of violence later.

Myth: Family violence is not widespread.
FACT: Domestic violence is a widespread and serious problem in America, with devastating consequences for individuals, families, and communities.

Myth: Family violence happens only to women in low-income groups.
FACT: Although violence in families is drastically underreported, it affects all kinds of people regardless of gender, race, culture, age, sexual orientation, class, or citizenship status.

Myth: Victims of family violence can easily leave before violence becomes a serious threat.
FACT: Economic dependence, fear, complex family emotional ties, low self-esteem, and lack of safe places to go make leaving almost impossible for many abused family members.

Myth: Family violence is not a crime. It occurs in the home and is strictly a private matter that doesn’t affect anyone else.
FACT: Any threat or attack against a person is a crime, no matter where it happens or who does it.

Myth: No one can help. The police, courts, and social workers either don’t want to get involved or can’t do anything effective.
FACT: Women’s health centers, mental health agencies, volunteer groups, and law enforcement agencies throughout the country are helping victims of family violence by providing safe shelters, counseling, emergency assistance, legal aid, and mediation programs—even arrests and prosecutions, with or without victims’ cooperation.

Information obtained through the Illinois State Police, the Illinois Attorney General's Office and the National Crime Prevention Council.